It’s getting hot out there…

With the sun still shining, we may all be feeling a little hot under the collar.  For those experiencing the stress of going through a divorce or dissolution it’s even worse.  So I thought it might be helpful to give you my top five tips to help see you through the challenges that lie ahead.

  1. Take legal advice as soon as possible

Do not put this off.  If you decide to divorce your husband or wife, or dissolve your civil partnership or if you receive divorce or dissolution papers, take advice from a specialist Family Law Solicitor as soon as possible. They will advise you of the best course of action for your circumstances which can put your mind at ease and leave you clearly informed of all the options going forward.  Most firms offer a fixed fee.  It will prove to be invaluable.

  1. Keep an eye on your finances

You may face some complicated financial transactions during the course of your proceedings, for example if there is a family home, or if you, your spouse or civil partner have a pension or savings. Any money, property or any items of particular value may be taken into consideration when deciding how to split your assets.

Try not to spend any more than you would usually, otherwise you may leave yourself open to allegations that you are trying to deprive your spouse/partner of a fair settlement, or even to put money outside of their reach.

Do not transfer any monies between different or new accounts unless absolutely necessary and avoid agreeing to lend anybody any money whilst your divorce is ongoing – even if you’re just trying to help out a friend or family member.

  1. Don’t leave the house unless you have to

Staying in your home may put you in a stronger position for tactical negotiation and enable you to retain some decision-making power especially if the house is to be sold. However, if you or your children are at risk of harm by staying in the property, you should take urgent legal advice from a Family Law Solicitor.

  1. Remember your friends and family

Don’t be afraid to ask for help – nobody expects you to be superwoman or superman. As well as the support of a Solicitor, you may need financial advice, as well as emotional support. Let your family and friends help you out and don’t be afraid to take professional advice from an independent financial advisor, counsellor or your GP.

  1. Try to be reasonable

Some couples separate amicably and find a way to work together when splitting their assets and making arrangements regarding their children. Unfortunately, others struggle, and find that despite their best intentions, it’s impossible to communicate effectively.  Although you may feel that your former spouse/partner is being unreasonable, it’s always sensible to try and stay calm and rational in all dealings with them.

For further advice and legal support through your divorce or separation, contact one of our experienced family lawyers today on 0845 287 0939 or contact us by email.