Going through a divorce can be a nasty business, but it doesn’t have to be. Our family law solicitors have many years of experience in divorce and related family law matters, and we really have seen it all. We understand that divorce can be stressful and that the legal process can seem daunting. That’s why we’ve created our top tips on how to get through a divorce.
1. Take advice as soon as possible
If you decide to divorce your husband or wife, or if you receive divorce papers, it’s best to take advice from a specialist solicitor as soon as possible. They will advise you of the best course of action for your circumstances which can put your mind at ease and leave you clearly informed of the options going forward.
2. Keep an eye on your finances
You may face some complicated financial transactions during the course of your divorce, for example if there is a family home, or if you or your spouse have a pension or savings. Any money, property or any items of particular value such as a family car may be taken into consideration by the Judge when deciding how to split your assets.
Try not to spend any more than you would usually, otherwise you may leave yourself open to allegations that you are trying to deprive your spouse of a fair settlement, or even to put money outside of their reach.
Also, do not transfer any monies between different or new accounts unless absolutely necessary, and avoid agreeing to lend anybody any money whilst your divorce is ongoing – even if you’re just trying to help out a friend or family member.
3. Don’t leave the house unless you have to
Staying in the house will put you in a stronger position for tactical negotiation, and enable you to retain some decision-making power if the house is to be sold. However, if you or your children are at risk of harm by staying in the property, you should take urgent legal advice from a family law solicitor.
4. Remember your friends and family
Don’t be afraid to ask for help – nobody expects you to be superwoman or superman. As well as the support of a solicitor, you may need financial advice, as well as emotional support. Let your family and friends help you out and don’t be afraid to take professional advice from an independent financial advisor, counsellor or your GP.
5. Try to be reasonable
Some couples divorce amicably, and find a way to work together when splitting their assets and making arrangements to do with their children. Unfortunately, others struggle, and find that their relationship breaks down irretrievably. Although you may feel that your former spouse is being unreasonable, it’s always sensible to try and stay calm and rational in all dealings with them.